What’s the Price of Success?
Success is hard and that’s OK. If you’re able to take anything away from this post and apply it to your life, take that; Hard work is OK. Feeling uncomfortable in a situation is OK. Being scared is OK.
I would go even further to say that you should seek out these situations, because this is how you grow. This is how you become successful.
Many times we give up before we even start. Or we give up as soon as we feel some resistance. Did you know that a muscle can’t grow without resistance? You’re the same way. If you don’t have some push back or some obstacles you can’t grow.
I say embrace it all. I’m a husband and a father of three, young children. Every single day is a struggle. If you’re a parent you know where I’m coming from. If you don’t have any kids yet, don’t rush! I’m joking, but I’m serious at the same time.
At this point in my life every decision i make has the potential to help or hurt my family. My risks have to be more calculated. Sometimes the pressure feels overwhelming. But you know what? I can’t give up and I️ can’t leave. So I️ keep pushing and I️ keep looking for ways to improve.
How Do You Define Success?
Success means different things to different people. Some would define it as having a nice car, a nice house and lots of money. Others might define success as being able to pursue their passions in life.
For me, I define success in a very simple way; meeting or exceeding the goals I set for myself. Over the past 30 years, I’ve experienced success and I’ve experience failure. I’ve come to realize you can’t have one without the other.
In my past successes, my confidence was strengthened and my value of planning and hard work increased. In my past failures, I learned what it means to be persistent and how to adjust fire to reach a target.
If you truly desire success, in any area of life, you have to ask yourself these three questions;
- Where am I now?
Take an honest inventory of where you currently stand. Think about what motivates you and what you have achieved thus far. Access your skills, talents, interests and resources.
- Where do I want to be?
Identify the goal or goals you want to achieve. Be specific and give your goals a time-frame. Decide what constitutes success.
- How do I get there?
Take your skills, talents and resources you have available and start building your plan. This is where the rubber meets the road. Once you have a plan, don’t wait. Start now!
When we want to reach success, in any area of life, we must clearly define the goals we want to reach. And… with unwavering belief, we must strive towards those goals.
Are you chasing success? Are you already successful? In the comments below, all the way at the bottom, let me know what your definition of success is.
* Below, I outline what I’m doing over the next 90 days to make sure 2018 is a Success *
I just turned 30 about a week ago. After taking inventory of my own situation, I’ve decided to make some changes in my own life. Over the next 90 days I plan to improve these 5 areas:
1. Marriage and Family
Have you ever heard the saying, “ Behind every great man is a great woman”? I wouldn’t dare be so egotistical to call myself a great man, but my wife is truly a great woman. I’m better, because of her and will do anything for her.
Knowing that, I have a lot to work on if I want our marriage to continue growing. Like a lot of marriages, one of our biggest issues is the way we communicate when we’re upset. I tend to hold things inside for too long before I’m willing to talk.
My goal is to do a better job at expressing how I feel to my wife, good or bad, in a healthy manner.
2. Health and Nutrition
My body is my temple. If I want to keep my temple from falling, I must maintain it. My goal is to exercise consistently, get down to a healthier body weight and do better job at controlling my blood pressure.
3. Personal Finances
With my family still growing, it’s more important than ever to know where I stand financially. I need to know what’s coming in, what’s going out and where can i afford to make cuts.
Over the past year, I made some pretty good progress financially. I paid off my car loan, increased my salary around 30% and increased my credit score by 187 points. I want to continue that trend this upcoming year.
To give myself a jump start, my goal is increase my family’s saving rate to 20% of my net, take home pay increase my credit above the 720 range.
4. Career and Business
In July of 2008, I told myself I was done working for the man and I quit my job. I set out to be my own boss and make my own money in the wonderful world of internet marketing.
6 months later I arrived at Ft. Knox for Army Basic Combat Training. Life is funny. I never would have thought the training I learned in the Army lead to the career I have now.
In the last 4 years I’ve been very fortunate in my career. Over that time my salary has tripled and I’ve gained a wealth of knowledge and experience. I want to go as far as I can and become an expert in my field.
So… for this challenge, my goal is consistently give 100% effort at work. That means doing what’s expected and beyond, consistently for 8-9 hours per day, 5 days per week. This also includes any technical training or study to improve the quality of my work.
On the business side, I have a few ideas / projects that have stalled as of late. My goal over the next 90 days it to take, at least, one action every day that will help grow my business.
5. Relationship with God
Since the new baby has joined our family, my prayer and Bible study habits have taken a nosedive. I can actually feel the difference in the way I talk, the way I think and the way I feel. The Lord has continued to bless my family, still.
As a husband and a father, my purpose in this life is to lead my family towards Jesus. My aim is that my children grow to be like him more and more each day.
Over the next 90 days, my goal is to make a habit of studying God’s word and praying, first thing in the morning each day. Also, I want to conclude each day with an entry in my prayer journal as a reminder of what God has done for me.
Tracking and Accountability
Most of the goals I’ve listed here aren’t quantifiable in a traditional sense so, I’ve created a daily self-assessment. I’ll grade myself on each core area with a series of questions, rating my adherence on a scale of 0 to 5. See the figure below.
At the end of each week, I’ll calculate my scores across all areas and also calculate my overall score for adherence to my goals. See the figure below.
At the end of this sprint, success for me would be an overall score of 65% or greater. If these daily actions and decisions form healthy habits and patterns, 2018 will be a very successful year.
Are you chasing success? Are you already successful? In the comments below, let me know what your definition of success is.